Dreams

Never give up.

I am 25 years old. I have a full-time job with medical and dental coverage as well as a generous retirement plan at my alma mater, the University of Connecticut. I have an incredibly rewarding job as an admissions counselor, serving as a liaison between the school and prospective students. Storrs, Connecticut will always be my home.

Although raised in Connecticut I was born in Los Angeles and have been infatuated with California ever since. When I was younger I would stare at pictures of the boardwalks and endless coastline for hours. The infatuation quickly turned into a dream.

Every month since I graduated college I have applied to jobs in California and every month, for 39 months, I have been rejected. That’s 39 months of deep disappointment only experienced when a dream is crushed again and again before your eyes. No matter how positive your approach or how strong your intuition, 39 months of rejection takes its toll. It makes you question your purpose and ability leading to the darkest of days. It can even turn dreams into nightmares.

A close childhood friend of mine passed away last year. In our last conversation he mentioned he had always been impressed by my drive and added that 25 would be our year to shine. Tragically, he never made it to 25 but his words left a lasting impression. We all face adversity, it’s how you respond to that adversity that defines who you are.

No matter how many times you fail, never give up.

This March, on my 25th birthday, I had the most important epiphany of my life and committed to the most important decision of my life. Suddenly, it all made sense. I no longer felt the nagging pain of disappointment. Like everything in life, this was just another sign. Our next move depends on how we interpret that sign. I refused to be defined by my failure but instead used it to improve. Each rejection has forced me to re-evaluate my approach and alter how I market myself. Every new application I sent out was better than the last, each interview question prepared more carefully than it’s predecessor. Each rejection has made me better and I realized I was not in the midst of 39 months of failure, I was in the midst of 39 months of improvement.

You see the epiphany I had was that nobody can crush your dreams but yourself. I have read these words time and time again but never saw them as clearly as I did that day in March. The day I decided nothing could stop me.

No matter how many signs point to “no”, never give up.

Today I resigned from my position at the University of Connecticut. I have nothing but the utmost respect for my colleagues at a University I have grown to love, but I am overdue for my next adventure. After 25 years I am finally moving to Los Angeles to chase my dream. I don’t expect it to be easy, but that is not what I am looking for. I have always found I perform better when challenged and this will be the ultimate challenge. I am not fearful of what is to come but rather excited to finally discover what I am truly capable of. Over the years I have been asked many times what exactly I am looking for in California. I’m not looking for anything, I’m looking for everything.

To my late friend, 25 is our year to shine and I promise nothing will ever stand in my way, especially myself.

To my friends and family, thank you for the unwavering support and encouragement. I could never accurately express my appreciation.

In my lifetime I have cliff jumped into the clear waters of the Adriatic Sea, swam in the Blue Grotto, viewed picturesque Italian sunsets in Tuscany, partied late into the night at New York City’s finest clubs and witnessed my childhood idols, the UConn Huskies, win two National Championships. I have worked the sidelines of an NFL game, played pick up basketball at Madison Square Garden and stood on the field at Fenway Park. I have traveled all over this beautiful country from the mountains in Montana to the warm waters of Maui, crossed the bridges of Pittsburgh to the rolling hills of New England. But you know what?

This is the first time I feel truly alive.

It is now time for me to follow my dream. When your time comes, I encourage you to do the same.

And always remember, never give up.


If anyone has any leads on housing in the Orange/Riverside County area please contact me at matthew.ouimette@gmail.com!

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